You’re Still Hung Up
The problem with jumping into a new relationship is that you are not over your previous partner. Many people are still hung up on the past when they delve into a new love affair. You must be truly over your ex and at peace with that part of your life before you can even contemplate having meaningful feelings for someone new. This takes time and you have to give yourself the ability to find closure. Not taking time might result in you choosing someone that simply reminds you of your ex or your past relationship. You have to be fair to yourself and your next partner by taking the time that you need to truly move on.
Can you get your ex back?
Sometimes you really need to just get over someone, however hard that may be, what if you want your ex back. Give it some time to find out whether or not you really want them back or if its just that your ego has been hurt, or you are lonely. If you really want them back and you had a good thing going, you can try, but it probably won’t be easy. You really need to understand why it went wrong and how you can change things otherwise your ex girlfriend or boyfriend isn’t even going to listen to you. There is some good advice and some bad advice available for those who want to go down this path, I’ve seen it all.
Rushing into a new relationship is something that almost everyone does, but why is it so common? The real answer is that most people do not want to be alone. Being alone can be depressing and make you feel unworthy of love. You don’t realize how important being confident in your single status is to finding your real soul mate. You must be happy with who you are and your own accomplishments before you can really complete someone else. Being scared to be alone is common, but it should not lead you into a new relationship before you are truly ready. Being alone will make you learn more about yourself and find out what your true strengths are. Being single for a little while is not a bad thing and is actually the best thing you can do for your next relationship.
Convenience Is No Way To Love
Many people dive right into a new love affair, because it is convenient and easy. You should know by now that many things that are easy or convenient are not necessarily best for you. You might have just met a nice guy at work or a handsome guy at the bar, but do not rush it. You can still get to know people when you are healing from a breakup, but this means building a friendship. Relationships that are built ton more than just attraction and chemistry are actually the most successful. This means that you should proceed with caution and not make any quick decisions when it comes to love. Take your time and do not date based on convenience.
Be In Control of Yourself
Many people jump into new relationships because they are taking bad advice. Your friends and family may think that you need to dive right into the dating pool, but they are not you. Your mom might be pressuring you to move on and make grand babies, but don’t let this get you down. You have to do what is right for you and that means not being influenced by others. You will know when the time is right to get back into the dating world again. Just take control of your heart and make sure that you just take your time.
Posted by: Risa Wright
Originally Written by: Advice From A Single Dating Expert