The problem with the laundry list is that most of the attributes on these lists are shallow and do not speak to a man being a quality person that you should date.
Many women’s laundry list reads like this: Must make over 100k (or insert any amount here), must be physically fit, must be tall, must have this type of car, and the list goes on.
While it’s definitely necessary to have an idea of the type of man that’s a good match for you, your laundry list should have more depth. The items on this list should address qualities that are common to good men.
Make A Viable List
Here’s a helpful exercise to help you narrow down your laundry list to showcase the most important and realistic qualities you want in a man.
First, write down all the things you feel you want in a long term partner.
Second, choose 3 to 5 items on your list that aren’t references to superficial qualities.
Superficial qualities would be income, physique, car, etc. These things are superficial because they can easily change and don’t address any characteristics that make up a good man.
These 3 to 5 items are the only items that you should deeply contemplate when picking a man to date.
I know it would be nice to have the rest of the things that are on your list, but let those other items be bonuses and not deal-breakers.
You should be extremely flexible in those items that are outside of your core 3 to 5 attributes.
Get real with your laundry list and don’t let it hold you back from getting the quality man you really want to date!
IMO: When, I was 18, my best friend and I came up with a list of 100 things we wanted in a significant other. And, let me tell you... It was hard enough to come up with those 100 things but to actually think a list of that magnitude was even realistic was more insane. Not long after I narrowed down my list and made it realistic and attainable I can honestly say I was able to meet the man of my dreams.
Posted By: Risa Wright
Originally Written by: Dee