The father of her child....
Justin and Monica met at a lounge. She was just getting out of a relationship and wasn't looking to get into another one. Justin... had literally just blown off some chick that very same night at the lounge. He told her, "If you walk away from me I guarantee you that someone else will walk up." And, sure enough that someone else was Monica. She walked up to the bar drunk but not sloppy drunk and stood right next to him as she waited for her girlfriend to finish talking to some random guy.
Immediately, Justin sparked up a conversation with talking to Monica. They hit if off, exchanged numbers and about a couple of weeks later they went out on their first date. And, on this first date, Monica realized they had a lot of things in common and thought it could be the beginning of something magical. Yet, there were a few major red flags:
Red Flag #2: He had felony
Monica wasn't into dating men with children and the whole having a felony thing was played out. But, there was something about him that made her ignore the red flags. Instead she wanted to learn more about him. She was willing to give him a chance. She was willing to get to know him. They went out on a couple of more dates and Just was already trying to make Monica his girlfriend. She wasn't ready to get into another relationship & declined his advance several times but Justin wasn't willing to give up. He wouldn't stop until he got what he wanted.
One afternoon, as Monica was checking her Facebook she noticed a recent friend request. It was Justin. She didn't want to accept but she did and not long after accepting his friend request he was sending her a "relationship request." Monica was a taken aback and made a mental note to talk to him about it. Then, a voice in her head said, "just go with it and see where it takes you." So, she did.
And, noticed there were some really good things about him yet there were also a lot of other things that lead her to have some reservations:
1) He was overly affectionate.
2) He told Monica that he had "fun" while he was in prison.
3) His child had its on set of issues.
4) There was baby mama drama when he said there wasn't any.
5) He was disrespectful to his mother.
6) He lived at home and didn't pay rent at 28
7) He lived outside of his means.
8) He hustled and held a dead end job which paid nickels and dimes.
9) He had a temper and a history of being violent.
And, those are just to name a few. Yet, his good qualities were good:
1) He was loving and wanted to be loved.
2) He was willing and able to live life. ex., travel, go out, etc.
3) He was willing and able to provide.
4) He was a good cook.
5) He was ambitious.. At least, he fronted like he was.
6) And, let's not forget to mention... the sex was amazing.
The first few months of the relationship were great even though there were a few flags. There was the time, he lied about going to change his baby mama's tire and had no intentions of telling Monica. And, then there was the time right after he proposed (Yes, he proposed. And... She said, "Yes.") when he bit her finger after throwing alcohol on her in the club. That's another crazy ass story to look for in future post. These instances were the beginning of the end.
It's kind of funny because Monica called the outcome during the second month of their relationship while joking with a friend she said,
"I'm in love with a guy whom I've only known for a couple of months, if that. I just want to fast forward and be like "Show me who you really are!!" Because, I know that I will only get better, love him stronger and love him harder. And, the possibility of him not doing the same or turning into Martin from "Sleeping with the Enemy" with Julia Roberts or Mitch from "Enough" with Jennifer Lopez; scares the SHIT out of me. I always talk about people taking out the time to get to know one another. And, I'm no exception.. This is just another case of me being a "Certified Sucker" for love. Pray for me!"